Try this science-backed scheduling trick to relieve your anxiety
My brain and my laptop are quite similar—both have about 20 tabs open at all times. But, unlike my laptop, I can’t seem to shut down my brain at night.
My thoughts immediately become consumed with my to-do lists, forgotten tasks, and overall work-related anxiety. Did I send that email? Did I miss a deadline? Does so-and-so secretly hate me?
And it seems like the harder I try to force out the thoughts or drown them out with my noise machine, the louder, more incessant they become. That’s why when I stumbled upon a Medium post by sleep therapist and psychologist Nick Wignall about “the art of deliberate worry,” it immediately grabbed my attention.
I thought of the Erma Bombeck quote “Worrying is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” It seemed like deliberately worrying would set me up to get stuck in that rocking chair—but I was intrigued by Wingall’s five-step approach nonetheless, so I figured I’d try it out myself…READ ON
The crises won’t stop coming. Radical acceptance is the key to coping.
Take a deep, long breath, because you probably need one this week. Which week is it again?
The one with Hurricane Ida, a Category 4 storm, that wiped out power for weeks in New Orleans. The one where the U.S. ended a 20-year war in Afghanistan but left behind vulnerable Afghans who may die at the hands of the Taliban now that America is gone. The one where a major wildfire in California crossed the towering Sierra Nevada mountain range and threatens thousands of homes in Lake Tahoe, not to mention the surrounding wilderness. Let’s not forget the continued spread of the Delta variant, which may lead to another 100,000 deaths in the U.S. between now and December, the vast majority of those fatalities preventable with a vaccine some people refuse to take.
Next week it may be a different combination of disasters, fueled by climate change, geopolitics, conspiracy theories, and other forces that are well beyond our personal control. While catastrophe is part of the human experience — no matter how hard we try, we cannot keep tragedy or death at bay — the news finds us faster these days, on our phones and on social media. The pandemic, which began 18 long months ago, shifted our collective existence so that now any difficult development compounds the relentless uncertainty and grief, especially for those who experience new crises firsthand instead of watching them unfold from afar…READ ON