How to Strengthen Your Personal Resilience

Without Compassion, Resilient Leaders Will Fall Short

It can come out of nowhere — a contempt attack. Like a panic attack, it arises suddenly and takes over completely. You feel a roil of emotions and an overpowering sense of exasperation: the person you’re working with is wasting your time, undermining your efforts, holding back the team. They’re weak, lazy, willfully misguided. In the grips of the attack, you can no longer focus on the matter at hand. The problem is more fundamental. What troubles you about this person is not so much what they’re doing as who they are.

Most leaders experience contempt attacks at one time or another, especially during times of crisis, uncertainty, and high stress. Leaders need to be strong and resilient to make it through these periods. Paradoxically, however, those very strengths make leaders vulnerable to these attacks, because in the heat of the moment they forget that not everybody is as strong and resilient as they are…


How to Strengthen Your Personal Resilience

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“The great news is that resilience is a buildable skill that can vary from situation to situation.” – Andrea J. Miller Image credit: NiseriN | Getty Images

When faced with a difficult situation how well do you cope or adapt? COVID has tested us all. Its global impact is undeniable and seemingly without an end. For some, the uncertainty has been the most traumatizing part of the whole thing.

As entrepreneurs, you’re used to uncertainty. You’re used to handling whatever comes your way. In fact, you pride yourself on it. But lately, it’s been harder to keep showing up and keep working towards the dreams and goals you’ve been fighting for, for years. While it may not feel like it, this is a normal reaction.

Studies show that uncertainty can often be harder to deal with than the negative consequences that follow. It is part of one of our many evolutionary “bugs” that haven’t kept up with changing times. While we no longer need to predict the saber tooth tiger waiting to turn us into dinner, our striatum (also known as the reward center) has evolved to anticipate good and bad consequences, trying to calculate the odds of those consequences and then immediately reacting when it hits at around 50 percent…


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