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Thriving After a Loss: Building resilience in tough times
Trauma comes in many forms: as illness, bereavement, divorce, infertility, abuse and natural disasters. I have also seen more subtle forms of trauma in people involved in lengthy, intrusive court cases; those feeling threatened with a great personal or professional loss; or for caregivers and healthcare professionals who daily witness the immensity of human suffering. One thing I’ve learned in my years as a psychologist is we all have a tremendous capacity for resilience. Patients, or “thrivers” as I like to call them, repeatedly astound me with the ways they flourish after terrible life circumstances. Thrivers often endorse a deeper spiritual connection, appreciation of family and friends, discovery of personal strengths and reprioritization of commitments. While we often can’t prevent setbacks, there are a number of things to get you on the path to thriving…
The art of resilience
The renowned artist of the 1600s, Rembrandt, remains famous for capturing emotions and dramatic personal reactions of his subjects. In many of his paintings he displays light emerging from darkness, a sort of victory over the struggles and difficulties of life.
Rembrandt serves as a model of determination, courage and perseverance in dealing with the turmoil and pains of life. He experienced many struggles: the loss of three children, the death of his wife during childbirth, financial difficulties that resulted in bankruptcy and public humiliation from an illicit relationship.
The personal triumphs reflected in Rembrandt’s work demonstrate human resilience, a skill that is lacking in our culture today. Our society’s inability to cope with the normal stresses of life, as well as failure and unplanned life events, is resulting in increasing suicide rates, drug addiction, prescriptions used for anxiety, depression and sleep, family discord, and violent crime…